Kim D. Bailey gives us letters of encouragement in her column this week check it!
My unconditional love, my time, resources, energy, and protection, and loyalty are now reserved only for those who are willing to offer reciprocity for all the above. There are no more compromises in this area for me.
Today I am a strong woman who has finally found herself. I found my voice. I took back my power. I look in the mirror and see a deeply flawed woman who is creative and intelligent and brave. At last, I learned to mother myself and I realize I did the best I could with what I had in my life.
So, with all of that said, and life being a bitch sometimes, we must understand that to love another human being is to stand back and give them room to breathe and be who they are, not some manifestation of our expectations of who they should be.
Ah, but here’s the rub. In order for any kind of relationship to work, there must be reciprocity.
I love and accept you…you love and accept me. Simple, right?
Not always, but it’s worth a shot when the reward is immeasurable love and loyalty.
When it comes to loving our LGBTQ NB/GF friends and family, we must look beyond our preconceived notions of who and what they should be, our individual beliefs, and see the person within. That’s who we fight for. That’s who we love.
“Sexuality and orientation are not something we can necessarily define clearly or put in a box. Although the most pervasive idea of a “couple” is a man and a woman, most likely married, and who usually have children if they are able. In society, a couple is also part of procreation. It is a moral imperative and social responsibility.”
Kim D Bailey returns with her 3rd out of 5 columns about LGBTQ family.
“It’s in our relationship to God, Jesus, Allah, Buddha, Adonai, The Holy Spirit, Wisdom, Great Spirit, Mother Creation, or a Higher Power. Some agnostics or atheists may have their own views and names. That’s okay. The point is, it’s the relationship with such a power, others, and ourselves that bears out our legacy. If our relationships aren’t healthy, nothing else can be. So, we must start there. Whether it’s in church, synagogue, temple, a mosque, a sweat lodge, a vision quest, or meditation—we reach others by reaching the essence of our being. That essence is love. Even in the Christian Bible, the Torah, the Quran—all Word comes down to the relationships we have, not self-righteousness.”
Kim D Bailey talks more about parents and the LGBTQ community in the second part of her 5 part series.
“My oldest child, Zach, had also been born as a girl to me. We named her Amanda Margaret Renee Lee. When “Mandi” was 10 she told me she was gay. I was okay, a little shaken up but really okay. Ten years later she told me she was going to start the process to transgender, female to male, and came to me first because, “I know you will be the most understanding and I need your support when I tell everyone else.” ‘
Kim D Bailey celebrates her son’s 21st today on #BTLOS
“Many who read my posts or have known me for some considerable time, or have made an effort to know me regardless of how far back our relationship goes, know that I moved back to the Chattanooga area in December 2012 after having been away for about thirty-one years.”
This week Kim D Bailey on #BTLOS looks from the outside, and reflects on going “home” again.