My unconditional love, my time, resources, energy, and protection, and loyalty are now reserved only for those who are willing to offer reciprocity for all the above. There are no more compromises in this area for me.
“Sexuality and orientation are not something we can necessarily define clearly or put in a box. Although the most pervasive idea of a “couple” is a man and a woman, most likely married, and who usually have children if they are able. In society, a couple is also part of procreation. It is a moral imperative and social responsibility.”
Kim D Bailey returns with her 3rd out of 5 columns about LGBTQ family.
“It’s in our relationship to God, Jesus, Allah, Buddha, Adonai, The Holy Spirit, Wisdom, Great Spirit, Mother Creation, or a Higher Power. Some agnostics or atheists may have their own views and names. That’s okay. The point is, it’s the relationship with such a power, others, and ourselves that bears out our legacy. If our relationships aren’t healthy, nothing else can be. So, we must start there. Whether it’s in church, synagogue, temple, a mosque, a sweat lodge, a vision quest, or meditation—we reach others by reaching the essence of our being. That essence is love. Even in the Christian Bible, the Torah, the Quran—all Word comes down to the relationships we have, not self-righteousness.”
Kim D Bailey talks more about parents and the LGBTQ community in the second part of her 5 part series.
“My oldest child, Zach, had also been born as a girl to me. We named her Amanda Margaret Renee Lee. When “Mandi” was 10 she told me she was gay. I was okay, a little shaken up but really okay. Ten years later she told me she was going to start the process to transgender, female to male, and came to me first because, “I know you will be the most understanding and I need your support when I tell everyone else.” ‘
Kim D Bailey celebrates her son’s 21st today on #BTLOS
ICYMI: this is my latest column installment, with the first story of how I confronted the man who molested me when I was a girl, and will tie in with a podcast being published today on 52 Men the Podcast by Louise Wareham Leonard.
Kim D Bailey is back for another installment of #breakingthelegacy
“The immense power in that moment overshadowed the day I confronted him about sexually abusing me, that day I walked up to his door in October 2014 while my husband stood in the background. I walked away feeling a sense of peace I’ve never felt in my life to that moment.”
“In many ways, I did overcome some of the dysfunction I cut my teeth on.”
Kim D Bailey offers some insight on self awareness this week on #breakingthelegacyofsilence
His inaction and unwillingness to make me a priority and to stand up for me when I was being attacked or hurt by those people drove a wedge between us.
Kim D. Bailey is back with #breakingthelegacyofsilence: